Tuesday, March 31, 2009
"Positive Parenting with the Gold Standard"
This particular night I found something that intrigued me. It is an e-book written by a woman named Wendy Jensen called "Positive Parenting with the Gold Standard". She has 7, yes 7 children, and she said that by following the techniques in her book, you could parent your children without yelling, spanking, nagging, or time outs. As soon as I read that, I was sold. The book cost just under $25 if I remember correctly and I was able to download it immediately.
She uses a ticket system for rewards and punishments. If you do what you are supposed to, you earn tickets. If you don't do what you are supposed to, you loose tickets. You can use your tickets to play on the computer or have special one-on-one time with mom or dad, or any other number of things. It makes the child responsible for themselves and allows the parents to guide their children instead of being the "good guy" or the "bad guy".
A couple of months later E came home from school talking about "bucket fillers" and "bucket dippers". She told me that when you do something nice for people you are filling their buckets and when you do something mean you are dipping from their buckets. In a matter of days, my 3 oldest children were all about being bucket fillers instead of bucket dippers. I was amazed.